You Can’t Win…

Recently my baby girl has been determined to watch all of my favorite movies and listen to the music that I love so much. Erykah Badu’s newest album has been on repeat for the past two weeks for us. ‘Monster in Law’ with Jenifer Lopez is one of the movies of choice but the all time favorite is ‘The Wiz.’


When I tell you that bad boy has been in constant rotation for the last few days, please believe me. Every song on there, I can repeat pretty much word for word and it’s been that way since I was little. Only now, I am starting to pay extra close attention to the words of certain songs. All this time, that movie and the songs had hidden messages for the viewer to grasp. Now I might be slow because I may be the only one who just figured it out. <shoulder shrug>

One song in particular is my favorite and that is the one sung by the scarecrow played by Michael Jackson. ‘You Can’t Win…’


Although the song is fun and it has a catchy tune, the song and the scene itself speaks of some true life stuff. For instance, the crows were steadily telling the scarecrow he couldn’t get down off the pole. They also drilled into him that he was nothing but garbage guts.

Have you ever been knocked down to a point where it made you question your self-worth?

If so, how many times have you been forced to live with doubts?

A snippet of the lyrics is:

You can’t Win, you can’t break even and you can’t get out of the game…

Whose game is it? Who says I can’t be even? Who set the rules? And how are you gonna tell me I can’t get out? Good Luck…

The first couple of lines alone is a slap in the face. It basically says you can’t win the game that you are playing. You can’t break even, meaning you can’t play on even or neutral ground. And to sum it up, now that you have entered the game – you can’t get out.

Now I may be wrong and for the record I was not high. LOL… But the message is clear.

My resolve is if I can’t win, get even, and can’t get out their imaginary game, I will just alter the way I play. By the time I piss off the creators, I will be exiled anyway. 🙂 If I get ejected from the game, I can start a new game. One that gives me the gold by giving the honor, glory, and victory to my father in heaven who is the original game maker. Y’all better feel me…

No one can tell you what you can’t do or what you won’t do, only you can decide on what you will do.

You all have a blessed day and I hope to hear from you soon.

K. Harris

Proverbs 31 Project

Proverbs 31 Project

It’s the beginning of a new month. For one full month we have been touching and hopefully agreeing on the scriptures describing a ‘virtuous woman.’

We have jotted down 300 compliments to ourselves. We have started a ‘husband box.’ Hopefully we have new recipes to add to our collection and we have begun to remove procrastination completely from our lives.

On to the next one…

Proverbs 31:17

She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.

This verse is self explanatory. The main word in this text is strength. In order to build strength, we must do the necessary work it takes to strengthen the muscles that carry the load. Although most folks point out the main flaws, pudgy mid-sections and flabby thighs, a full body workout should be the goal. Overall work will build endurance to continue the journey for a lifetime and not just the time being.

Even though the text speaks mainly of her loins and her arms, other components are equally important. According to Letgodbetrue.com, the metaphor and synecdoche of this clause intend strengthening her whole person for greater activity and effort, not just her loins. What good will come from strong loins but weak legs? Strong arms but a weak neck?

A great woman will require her body to be conditioned to handle the daily comings and goings. Her mind will need conditioning in order to keep from burning out easily. The spirit of a strong woman will depend on her ability to stay humble despite the hustle and bustle of daily life. Every day she will strive to be better than the day before.

Proverbs 31:17 (http://www.letgodbetrue.com/proverbs/commentaries/31_17.php)

Older women should teach younger women in Christ’s churches (Tit 2:3-5). If this were done diligently and wisely, each generation of Christian women would be greater than the one before in terms of holiness and marital and domestic godliness. If this is not the case in your church, who will change the ungodly trend? And when? Every Christian mother must also rise above ungodly prudery or slothfulness to teach her daughters completely.

As virtuous women, we should not hide our gifts and talents. If we are good shoppers, budget well, planners, decorators, coordinators, dancers, singers, etc. we should develop and exploit those skills to the benefit of our households. That very well may be the calling that you have ignored. Matt 25:14-30 speaks of taking the gifts God gave you, using them, and multiplying them. Increasing the intake by investing them where it counts instead of squandering them away, being wasteful.

In closing, a complete overhaul-mind, body, and spirit will produce the complete package so that you may be a blessing to others not just look good.

Please be mindful of those less fortunate than us. Keep in mind that our problems may not hold a candle to the person sitting next to you or even the person you cannot see. Be prayerful for those that lost, scared, hopeless, and alone. Uplift someone in your thoughts and prayers other than the needs of yourself. God hears all, sees all, and knows all. Some answers come when we remove thoughts about ourselves and start thinking about how we can bless others.

Pray for me and I will certainly do the same. When you get a moment, I hope you sign up for the newsletter to stay tuned with all P.E.W. Ministry has in store. Follow us so that you won’t miss out on any of the thought provoking posts and scriptures. We are simply trying to grow in Christ one day, one step at a time.

Much Love,


Proverbs 31 Project

Proverbs 31 Project (Day 17)

Day 17: It’s Simple. You’re Beautiful!

“Likewise also that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly attire, but with what is proper for women who profess godliness–with good works.” 1Timothy 2:9-10

As women, we need the motivation of a good word or compliment to get the ball rolling. Why not be the one to offer the compliment?

Stay on task, we are almost there. The more things we check off, the longer we have to work it out. The beginning stages are always the hardest parts for me when dealing with a project. Once it becomes a habit, it tends to flow smoothly. However, we can’t get too comfortable because that is when procrastination tries to slither in and fudge up the process made. Knock out the task at hand and the change will certainly come.

Next Verse in the Proverbs 31 Project…

“She gets up before dawn to prepare breakfast for her household and plans the day’s work for her servant girls. She goes to inspect  a field and buys it; with her earnings, she plants a vineyard.” Proverbs 31:15-16

Concentrating on the first portion of this text, we are basically talking about an early riser. The go-getter, the early bird gets the worm type of woman. This woman will have no problem rising early to get the tasks of the day rolling in the right direction. She has no qualms about preparing fittles for her household as well as her servants.

Do we have servants? Probably not… LOL… The point is basically rising to the occasion on time to get things moving smoothly. This woman wakes up with goals on her mind and every intention on meeting those goals. The Queen Mother described this woman to be ambitious, ready for any and all challenges.

If you are not a morning person, own it but don’t use that as an excuse. What if Jesus came back at the break of dawn? Are you going to tell him hold on minute, come back after noon? Lol… I am making light of the situation but the truth of the matter is we have to start somewhere. Why not start with an early morning?

Starting the morning off on a good note can only form the way you intend for your day to go. Your family or future family deserve to be lead by example not by simply stating what is right. Words are pointless unless actions show the proof.

Proverbs 24:30–34 NLT

30 I walked by the field of a lazy person, the vineyard of one with no common sense. 31 I saw that it was overgrown with nettles. It was covered with weeds, and its walls were broken down. 32 Then, as I looked and thought about it, I learned this lesson: 33 A little extra sleep, a little more slumber, a little folding of the hands to rest— 34 then poverty will pounce on you like a bandit; scarcity will attack you like an armed robber.

Of course this can easily be applied to the circumstances of your life. If you work nights and your mornings are for sleeping, simply study as your down time before laying it down. I truly believe that meditating over positive thinking will help you to rise with a positive mind. If that doesn’t work, make that a priority for when you wake up. We are not perfect people and God doesn’t expect us to be. Our goal is to make HIM the number one priority in our lives. We can do that by standing firm on his word and doing our absolute best to learn what we can to teach those who come after us.

By getting a jump-start, early to rise, we are preparing the feast of knowledge for our household to feed upon and set the path for each day.


Since forever and a day, I can recall bragging about how I love to sleep. I could sleep all day and not get tired. (Makes no dang sense, I know) Now I see why that has changed drastically over the years, God has been priming and prepping me for a new way of thinking. LOOK AT GOD! Sleep and slothfulness are addicting and contagious (Pr 19:15).(GUILTY) The more I allowed either, the more I wanted it but now, things have changed.

The longer you sleep and the slower you move in the morning, the more tired you will feel all day. If you leap out of bed and get at the day, you can rejoice in the vitality and vigor you feel coursing through your body and mind. Success starts by getting up on time (Pr 20:13). Believe it! Staying in bed will ruin you (Pr 23:21).

Tomorrow we will jump right into part II.

Much Love,


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Proverbs 31 Project (day 5)

Day 5: Admit it. You’re Amazing!

“So we do not lose heart. Though our outer self is wasting away, our inner self is being renewed day by day.” 2 Corinthians 4:16

Recap over the entire week:

We have been studying, meditating, and breaking down Proverbs 31:10-12.

10 An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels.
11 The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain.
12 She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life.

In a nutshell, a virtuous woman is a woman who fears the Lord. After all a God fearing man needs a God fearing woman and vice versa. In order to rectify order within the household, there has to be a unified front. The children have to see an example in order to one day lead their own household.

A virtuous woman is not vain nor lacking in beauty, the beauty simply shines from the inside out. Her every thought is whether her actions are pleasing to God. Of course we all fall short of his divine glory but as long as we do our very best to correct our errors with a simple repentance, all will be right in his eyes.

As women we always feel the need to compare or ride the line of envy when surrounded by other women. It’s a natural instinct to want this or want that, mainly because we don’t have it. The moral of that story is, we never really know what all the next had to go through to get what we thought was nice. That is a lesson for another day.

All in all, be courageous enough to seek the answers to the questions about faith. Stand tall when you walk into a room and even taller when you are alone. Never be ashamed of the struggle or what some may view as failures. Remember everybody has a little stank on them, no one person is perfect besides Jesus. He died for our sins. His blood ran to wash us clean from the stain of the world.

With so much going on in the world, the least we can do is lift our spouses up in prayer. Pray for the blood to cover our family, friends, and their surroundings with the protection to see them through all the traps set before them. Pray for the sick, shut in, lost, homeless, hungry, weary, wounded, and bound. Pray for our children, those that have direct access to our children, and the world that we may leave behind.

Lord knows, some of the ones that have sworn to protect and serve are doing more harm than good. Regardless of those misguided individuals, there is no logical explanation for cold blooded murder. Ambushing innocent folks because they look like the guilty. After all, isn’t that the reasoning for the guilty to commit their crimes to begin with. Racial profiling is simply categorizing one group of people in one box whether they are living foul or not, right?

Stand your ground and license to carry are not one sided or at least it isn’t supposed to be. Somehow it still seems to only be legal for certain people. Sadly a clear understanding as to what is allowed and what is not has become fuzzier as the years go by.

My apologies if today’s lesson turned into more of a rant than teaching. We will reconvene on Monday, if it is the Lord’s will.

Stay prayed up! Please pray for me and I will do the same for you.

Much Love,



Just the Beginning

This is not my first encounter with relating to the infamous Proverbs woman. My sister and I had an interesting discussion over the ‘virtuous’ woman text that is available. Needless to say, at that time we were both in the process of digging deeper and trying to find our way through the bible. After all, how can we expect to learn what we didn’t know if we don’t research and seek the answers.

At the time, I had my reservations over the Proverbs breakdown of what a woman should be. Either in her house, around her house, to her spouse, and so forth… In my opinion, while reading the text in several chapters, I had sinned so much that I felt I might be past redemption. I felt so guilt-ridden and unworthy to be mentioned in the same sentence as the definition of a ‘virtuous’ woman.

Without letting go of self, I believe I block myself from many blessings and fail to see the full potential of how great I can be. My insecurities are far beyond reprieve but through participating in this ministry I hope to grow in the word. By growing in the covenant that was prepared before all Christian believers, just maybe these issues won’t bother me anymore. While getting over my own issues, I pray I can be testimony to aid others.

Instead of starting the traditional way, why not start at a place that could possibly help this women’s ministry meet, agree, meditate, and grow — Proverbs.

We will use a series of sites, books, and other lesson plans to get us to where each of us has a desire to be separately as well as collectively.

I am Kanika, your tour guide on this spiritual journey. I look forward to exploring the bible with you lovely ladies. Let the learning, digging, and healing begin.

In the next post, I will attempt to give a brief breakdown of the ‘Proverbs 31 Project’ day by day. I purchased the ebook format from amazon for 99 cents. Also we will be using references from http://www.letgodbetrue.com/proverbs/proverbs-intro.php. This is where I felt the most challenged and intimidated by the definition of the ‘virtuous’ woman.

Until the next post…