Proverbs 31 Project

Proverbs 31 Project (day 13)

Day 13: Love Yourself Like God Does!

“If we live by the Spirit, let us also walk by the Spirit.” – Galatians 5:25

Mountain of the Month

By now you all are probably second guessing this Proverbs 31 challenge. I know the original plan is to go through this for the 31 days of July but I really think it is possible to start at any time. Although it would be nice to go through these challenges with all your lovely ladies, sometime it is hard for every one to get on one accord. If you are going through some serious struggles to stay task with me, bless your soul. LOL…

Today we are adding yet another, thing to do on our ‘to do list.’ ORGANIZE!!!

I am the Queen of disorganization or in my work area – cluttering things up. I say that to say this, I hate disorganization in an organization. Does that make sense? When it comes to a group or business trying to obtain a goal, it drives me bat-spit (ha-ha didn’t cuss) crazy to run around in circles. When it comes to my work area, my truck, closet, drawers, etc., I am too lax. Instead of getting right on it, I will let it drive me crazy with annoyance and then handle it.

The goal is to attack all that bothers you now in the clutter department NOW! Easier said than done, I know honey you don’t have to tell me. This is the hardest next to the ’10’ compliments a day challenge that I ever had to complete. Procrastination is my middle name.

The main purpose of this Proverbs project is for self-improvement. If thought we were great and without fault we wouldn’t be participating, right?

The plan is to make a daily plan. Whenever you do your study time or quiet reflection with God, add this chore to your list. Not saying you have to write down every tedious moment of your day but write down the major projects. Watch how it cuts out confusion in your life. Instead of feeling like a hamster who keeps running, only to pass out at night and realize that you missed a few things that may have been extremely important, follow the list.

Although we can hold superwoman qualities at times, we are only human. It is human nature to forget some things and it has nothing to do with age. My 16 y/o will forget his boxers if he didn’t feel the cool breeze, just keeping it pimping.

This is the year to end procrastination and excuses. If it is something that you desire to do and have been putting it off for so long, make the list on how to get it done. Once the list is completed, start working towards completing the goal. We all live busy lives but are we too busy to better ourselves so we may be a blessing to others.

Proverbs 12:24 states, “The hand of the diligent will rule, while the slothful will be put to forced labor.”

That simply says, when you are diligent, you don’t have work piled around you. If you are slothful and lazy, you sink into a huge magnitude of labor.

Our prayer focus should be on guidance, patience, time management, and lowering our stress levels. Releasing our anxieties and decreasing our worries, while organizing our thoughts. Give thanks for the strength that is to come to deal with the lists we create.

Pray for me and I will return the favor.

Much Love,

Kanika

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Proverbs 31 Project

Proverbs 31 Project (day 12)

Day 12: 120 Original Traits!

“Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman fears the Lord is to be praised.” -Proverbs 31:30

Reflection, meditation, and challenge announcements…

Reflect over Proverbs 31:13-14

A virtuous woman is not lazy nor slothful. We as women must aim hiring than simply existing. Although the goal is to treat our significant others, spouses, soul-mates as if they are the head of the house, we cannot forget our role is just as important. How can we expect the men to lead if we are not open to being lead? If this is a God-fearing man, then there is no way he will lead us astray. Once we open our minds to the bigger picture and see past the common definition of some words, we will realize most of us have been doing the exact thing we argue about. We just hate the stigma of the meaning ‘lead, head, cater.’

Meditate over the meaning of the word ‘bride’ of Christ. Meditate over how you envision the woman of God. Remember the virtuous woman description was given by a woman, a mother who only wanted what was best for her son. A God-fearing man who only wanted to live for and serve God. What’s the harm in lending that man an ear, a sound opinion free of malice, a home cooked meal, and a drama free home?

The point of the ‘Husband box’ is to add the things you desire in your relationship. Here’s your chance to prepare, meditate, and pray for guidance in the matters of the heart.

The next challenge to add to our already growing list of compliments, RECIPES!!! As most of you know, I love trying out new stuff. Things that I didn’t even think was possible of cooking without culinary skills. Better yet, I was just plain ole too lazy to try. Honesty is the best policy… πŸ™‚

The goal is to try one, (1), new recipe a week. Either you can pick the same day every week or rotate that bad boy however you see fit. All I suggest is plan ahead what day you want to try something new and stick to the plan. Research your recipes either on the internet, cooking shows, or my personal favorite Pinterest. FYI, P.E.W. Ministry has a pinterest page. Yes ma’am, press ham-I will admit I am a Pinterest addict. https://www.pinterest.com/pewministry/

Alright Monday marks the start of week three and I can hardly wait. I have begun to anticipate the monologue that comes with this project. In these trying times where we all stand in the need of prayer, I am going to leave you all with one.

Heavenly and gracious father, we come to you to give you thanks for blessing us beyond our wildest dreams. Thank you for protecting us, guiding us, and leading us in the direction you have designed for us to go. We praise and magnify your glorious name. Father God, despite all that is going on in this world we thank you for protecting our family and our households. Although we fall short of your glory every day, we pray that you continue to lead us down the path of righteousness. We give you thanksgiving with humble hearts that you have not giving up on us just yet and we are allowed to see another day. Please continue to touch our youth, spouses, finances, mind, body, and souls with your powerful hands. In Jesus Christ name we pray, Amen and Thank God!

Pray for me and I will pray for you.

Much Love,

Kanika

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Proverbs 31 Project (day 11)

Day 11: Now it’s time to dig Deeper!

“He has made everything beautiful in its time. Also, he has put eternity into man’s heart, yet so that he cannot find out what God has done from the beginning to the end.” Ecclesiastes 3:11

Yesterday we touched on Proverbs 31:13, ‘the not afraid to hustle woman.’

The woman who by any means necessary, she will find a way to provide for her family. No matter how dirty the job, she will do what needs to be done around the house, outside the house, and for the house. This woman is not a pampered princess who waits for prince charming to deliver the goods on a silver platter. All the while waiting with perfectly pedicured toes, a free mind, pretty hair on her lazy bum–so not a hustlers mentality.

Proverbs 31:14

She is like the merchants’ ships; she bringeth her food from afar.

Basically this verse is speaking of being creative in what and how you prepare meals for your household. Putting a little imagination into what you cook in your house. Change up the routine a bit. Every night is next to impossible for the ‘everyday’ working woman but dedicating at least one day a week to trying out new recipes couldn’t possibly hurt. Think about it in this light, once you introduce something new to your schedule, it will become routine-a force of habit.

The text from http://www.letgodbetrue.com/proverbs/commentaries/31_14.php, it broke down what we should do as virtuous women in the kitchen. It spoke on eating out, shopping for sales, preparing easy meals, and so much more. In a way I could easily disagree because at times I just don’t feel like cooking. I have worked hard and cooking is the last thing on my mind. Not to mention that my husband can slay in the kitchen so I enjoy the meals he prepares but I don’t necessarily think that makes me slothful.

We easily come to an agreement when it comes to meals so I don’t take offense to the breakdown of the scripture as some other people may. The purposely slothful females, well I don’t know what to say.

It’s evident the generations of women have changed over time. In the bible, the women are often referred to as hard-working, child-bearing, home makers. They would not only bore the children, they would man the fields, fetch the water, wash the clothes, tend to the crops, and then handle their business for their husbands later after they ran their bath. πŸ™‚

The next generation was ‘seen and not heard’ women. Stepford wives, if you must put a definite handle on it. They were soft-spoken, poised, dressed to the nine, and kept the house. Working was absolutely out of the question unless it had something to do with gardening.

Times got hard, men realized two incomes was better than one so then they were willing to let their wives work. Mostly in a domestic capacity but the point was to bring more money into the house to make ends meet. (This may factor in race so no offense is intended) In the eyes of some, women were born domesticated so it was only proper to work with the talents that came easy. Right? <blank stare>

Once Civil Rights and Women’s Rights came into play, the motto was whatever you can do I can do just as good, if not better. (BOOM rockets were launched) Although the sentiment is true, everything changed from that point on. Now not only was the world divided into a race war, now we have a sex war that started to attack the home.

On and on, the generation of women have diminished from hardworking all about hustlers to a watered down version. No I don’t mean all women but somehow the original design has been tampered with by too many outside influences.

If a woman works full-time, 40-50 hours a week, it’s next to impossible to think about meals every day. Notice the keywords, next to impossible. Now with all the inventions of slow cookers and other gadgets, anything is possible. Either way a house can only run smoothly if the heads work together. A house divided can cause the whole deck of cards to crumble.

http://www.letgodbetrue.com/proverbs/commentaries/31_14.php

As the bride of Jesus Christ, what will you give Him today? Will you settle for convenience, like a slothful wife – hurried Bible reading and a quick prayer? Or will you meditate carefully, pray fervently, praise gloriously, and obey faithfully? Learn to hate religious routine – a mere form of godliness. Do not be a lover of pleasures more than a lover of God. Work out your own salvation with fear and trembling (Phil 2:12; II Pet 1:10).

The bible referred the church as a body to the bride of Jesus. A virtuous bride is not slothful and on the look out for convenience in her giving to her husband. She is diligent and creative in expressing herself with every step she takes, with every goal she sets, and every move she makes. She is determined to bring no shame upon him and wants above all to make those that depend on her faithfulness, proud.

Are we doing all we can or is there yet more to give?

Pray for me and I will pray for you. Invite others to share in the good news, fellowship, and learning experience.

Much Love,

Kanika

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Proverbs 31 Project (day 10)

Welcome to week two of our Proverbs 31 Project. I am so eager to keep up this journey of enlightenment. Thank you for tuning in and I pray these messages empower you as they have me.

Day 10: You’re Worth 100 Compliments!

“The glory of young men is their strength: and the beauty of old men is the gray head.” -Proverbs 20:29

Keep the compliments coming. They are for you to reflect over when this challenge is over. Our ‘Husband Box’ is not only for the single with hopes of marrying one day but also for the married to pray and meditate over the best qualities or the qualities that would make your relationship shine at it’s best.

Today we are jumping into Proverbs 31: 13.

“She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.”

Basically these verses let it be known that a virtuous woman isn’t afraid to get her hands dirty. A true woman of God, virtuous woman is not scared of hard work. No rest for the wicked so why should the diligent be lazy.

How can one succeed if they never play, let alone enter the game?

Never in the text has it said that a woman, wife, or rib is to do ONLY as her husband says. Just because he is “man of the house” does not mean the responsibilities of providing for the household is strictly on him.

An ideal productive household has a strong male figure as the lead and a strong woman whose determination is just as driven versus man work, woman sit. It is not a crime nor a cardinal sin to assist in making your surrounding a success with the means gifted by God.

Β ***Question***

What man wants a lazy woman who depends on the man to provide her every need? It’s one thing to be spoiled by your mate but it’s something else altogether to be plum lazy. I’m straight up guilty in the spoiled department and I’m not ashamed. I’m not ashamed because, I will push the mower, roll with weed eater, and/or hold a tool to help fix a car. Whatever is needed, if I can help–I’m down.

There is nothing wrong with being pampered or treated every once in a while. There is nothing wrong with being the Queen of the house and being treated as such by our spouse or significant other. The simple fact is ‘we are queens.’ Point blank period, no matter what we have gone through, no matter what we go through, no matter where we come from, we are QUEENS. We are ancestors of Queens but that also gives a woman no right to sit and wait on the man to provide.

Why on Earth do so many people of the world, ‘men and women,’ feel they are entitled to anything? My personal opinion, if you didn’t work for it and you aren’t interested in working for it then you don’t get it. Simple as that…No matter what ‘it’ is. My opinion and I approve this message.

The text from Letgodbetrue.com verse thirteen speaks of a woman who searches for raw materials and provides richly for her family. If something needs to be handled, she is all for rolling up her sleeves and handling business.

Where does it say that the ‘keeper at home’, homemaker, or stay at home mom was supposed to wait for the man to provide and fully support the house financially?

Some women actually want the title of ‘wife’ to feel like they belong. They look forward to the ‘benefits’ of being a kept woman.

KEPT WOMAN – A glorified whore. A woman who gives up her body in exchange for gifts or room and board. You can slap a wedding ring on it if you wanna, but you’re still pimping yourself out.

Nothing against a woman, who has no other goals in life but to be a man’s dumping post in more ways than one, whatever floats your boat. In order to fit the mold of a virtuous woman there is a simple guideline that one must follow. When studying the word and applying the lesson to your life, we are halfway to knowing better so we do better.

Thoughts? Discussion? Comments? Feedback?

Inquiring minds want to know. πŸ™‚ Until next time…

Much Love

Kanika

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Proverbs 31 Project (day 5)

Day 5: Admit it. You’re Amazing!

“So we do not lose heart. Though our outer self is wasting away, our inner self is being renewed day by day.” 2 Corinthians 4:16

Recap over the entire week:

We have been studying, meditating, and breaking down Proverbs 31:10-12.

10 An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels.
11Β The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain.
12Β She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life.

In a nutshell, a virtuous woman is a woman who fears the Lord. After all a God fearing man needs a God fearing woman and vice versa. In order to rectify order within the household, there has to be a unified front. The children have to see an example in order to one day lead their own household.

A virtuous woman is not vain nor lacking in beauty, the beauty simply shines from the inside out. Her every thought is whether her actions are pleasing to God. Of course we all fall short of his divine glory but as long as we do our very best to correct our errors with a simple repentance, all will be right in his eyes.

As women we always feel the need to compare or ride the line of envy when surrounded by other women. It’s a natural instinct to want this or want that, mainly because we don’t have it. The moral of that story is, we never really know what all the next had to go through to get what we thought was nice. That is a lesson for another day.

All in all, be courageous enough to seek the answers to the questions about faith. Stand tall when you walk into a room and even taller when you are alone. Never be ashamed of the struggle or what some may view as failures. Remember everybody has a little stank on them, no one person is perfect besides Jesus. He died for our sins. His blood ran to wash us clean from the stain of the world.

With so much going on in the world, the least we can do is lift our spouses up in prayer. Pray for the blood to cover our family, friends, and their surroundings with the protection to see them through all the traps set before them. Pray for the sick, shut in, lost, homeless, hungry, weary, wounded, and bound. Pray for our children, those that have direct access to our children, and the world that we may leave behind.

Lord knows, some of the ones that have sworn to protect and serve are doing more harm than good. Regardless of those misguided individuals, there is no logical explanation for cold blooded murder. Ambushing innocent folks because they look like the guilty. After all, isn’t that the reasoning for the guilty to commit their crimes to begin with. Racial profiling is simply categorizing one group of people in one box whether they are living foul or not, right?

Stand your ground and license to carry are not one sided or at least it isn’t supposed to be. Somehow it still seems to only be legal for certain people. Sadly a clear understanding as to what is allowed and what is not has become fuzzier as the years go by.

My apologies if today’s lesson turned into more of a rant than teaching. We will reconvene on Monday, if it is the Lord’s will.

Stay prayed up! Please pray for me and I will do the same for you.

Much Love,

Kanika

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Proverbs 31 Project (day 4)

How are you all doing on your (10) a day challenge? We have quite a few days to go and I must admit, I am struggling. Lord it is hard to compliment myself this much without accidentally repeating myself. Lol…

Day 4: Time to Start Smiling!

“But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him. For the Lord sees not as man sees; man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.” -1 Samuel 16:7

Keep up the good work on the compliments and if you haven’t started on your ‘Husband Box, get cracking. πŸ™‚

As we have jumped into this project, I noticed that it takes off a bit slow for my speed and I will probably regret this eventually but I think using this book along with other teachings couldn’t hurt. Let me know if I’m jumping too much for you all and I will stick in one area. Instead of taking the book one month and chapter at a time, I will start chapter two on Monday. Saturday and Sunday will be used for strictly reflection.

With that being said, let’s see what came to my mind as I read today.

Piggy-backing from yesterday with the virtuous woman talk, I will go through the second portion of the scripture from yesterday. Proverbs 31:12

She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.

In the text on Let God Be True, it breaks this verse down even more. The virtuous woman teaching was written by a mother who had a vision for the best wife for her son. This woman knew how to present herself as a lady, yet handle her business in the streets. She would be a strong, independent woman who knew how to love and appreciate her man.

In this day and age, there is no doubt that a woman can handle herself in just about every way possible. There are women professional fighters, boxers, cops, firefighters, preachers, and a president nominee that can do what some have labeled as a man’s job. At the end of the day, all the hardness it takes to handle those jobs, there will always be a need of that significant other that gives that sense of security.

And I don’t mean security in the means of taking up for them in the physical form, no ma’am-press ham. Just the thought of having someone to share your hopes, dreams, fears, a family, and unconditional love with is priceless. It’s worth entirely more than silver, gold, and all the expensive gifts in the world.

Despite what some may think, the bible never said a woman couldn’t have the dominant, deep down dirty job, and still handle her womanly business when she is in the company of her husband. It simply states that a woman was made for and from man, Genesis 2:18 And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. 1Corinthians 11:9 Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man.

Never did it say she had to hold a less demanding job. I personally believe the Lord created a certain woman for every man, it’s as simple as that. Some men require a stronger woman, some require a woman with more meek characteristics. Seeing as though, every single person was designed to be different and not sculpted to be a walking talking clone, that shouldn’t be a surprise.

A virtuous woman will approach every day with the intent to be pleasing to her husband in the site of God.

If you would like a deeper read from where I got my information from, check out http://www.letgodbetrue.com/proverbs/commentaries/31_12.php.

Hopefully you all are following and I am not too preachy, that is not my intentions.

Let me know how I’m doing. Are you getting anything out of this? I have to be honest I am more mindful of what comes out of my mouth and how I respond. It’s good to reevaluate self every once and a while.

Much Love,

Kanika

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Proverbs 31 Project (day 3)

Are you all feeling the heat as I am? We are now in day three of this basic 30 day challenge of 10 a days. Today will mark 30 days worth of compliments, what do you know about that?

This is the hardest task I have ever signed up for. Writing fiction books has nothing on this assignment. As I said before, my self esteem has suffered for years and now I am forced to dig down inside myself. Of course this exercise can only help in the long run but the initial work is making me sweat a little.

The last two days we have touched the beginning of the breakdown of how we can relate to the description of a virtuous woman. Where I once thought I saw flaws, I realized I actually like or love more things about myself than I knew. The flaws aren’t so bad after all, actually they make me unique in my own little way. πŸ™‚

Day 3: 30 Compliments=A month’s worth!

Now we should have started our ‘HUSBAND BOX’. In digging into the second portion of the scripture from yesterday, I wanted to get a deeper understanding so I referred to the text on http://www.letgodbetrue.com/proverbs/commentaries/31_11.php. It breaks down the chapter and verses, line by line.

When it boils down to it, a husband is to entrust his heart with his chosen wife and he should choose wisely a woman who delights in giving her loyalty to her husband.

Her loyalty is simply remaining diligent, domestic, distinguished, and faithful.

This is where I kept getting caught up the first time I ventured into Proverbs, domestic. So many women have complained about the word when it is referenced to how a woman is supposed to act. A lot of men and women misinterpret the meaning behind submissive and domestic.

In the way some describe it, a woman is to be seen and not heard. A woman is to take care of the house, barefoot and pregnant, nothing more nothing less. The womens movement of the 70s really riled folks up and made a lot of folks question their roles. And I use the word ‘roles’ loosely because women are often sensitive about that word as well.

Sadly the words ‘roles’, ‘domestic,’ ‘obey’, and ‘submissive’ are put into context to make a person feel less than the another. The word is said in a sense to put the supposed weaker sex behind the otherwise dominant sex.

The bible points out that a man is to be the head of the household but when you dig a bit and fully open your hearts to the word, they aren’t saying it in a demeaning way. A virtuous woman is still expected to assist with keeping the economic flow of the household, add a clean and tidy appearance to their home, nurture the children, and meet the other needs of her husband.

That is what most women do anyway. Women like their houses cleaned a certain way, I hate the way every body in this house cleans my bathroom and wash clothes so I do it myself. We nurture our children because men can’t breastfeed, in the biblical days they didn’t have formula. (Just being honest, men don’t have boobs) And the last point, we would flip a mack truck if he ventured out to get his rocks off with another. Even as women we have needs that need to be met in the frisky department, why not unleash all that pent up freakiness for him instead of complaining about being tired.

The time it takes to complain and argue, the dirty deed could be done and every body could be resting peacefully, TOGETHER.

According to the text on Let God Be True, the virtuous woman can be trusted personally, sexually, domestically, economically, socially, and spiritually.

 

A husband risks his heart with a wife. She can break his heart by giving her body or love to another (Num 5:11-31; Matt 1:18-19). She can defraud him of adoration or sexual fulfillment (Esth 1:12; I Cor 7:1-5; Eph 5:33). She can break his heart by being lazy and allowing the family or house to suffer (Pr 14:1; Ezek 16:49; I Tim 5:14). She can be odious, contentious, and shameful in private or in public (Pr 12:4; 27:15-16; 30:21-23).

 

Scripture for the day:

“Do not let your adorning be external–the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear–but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.” 1 Peter 3:3-4

That is all for me today ladies, I pray you all got something as I have received my lesson for today.

Let me know how I’m doing and please feel free to chime in with your comments, thoughts, concerns, and suggestions.

Love ya,

Kanika